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3 Common Traits of Youth Who Don’t Leave Church

The following article by Jon Nielson is excellent.

“What do we do about our kids?” The group of parents sat  together in my office, wiping their eyes. I’m a high school pastor, but  for once, they weren’t talking about 16-year-olds drinking and partying.  Each had a story to tell about a “good Christian” child, raised in  their home and in our church, who had walked away from the faith during  the college years. These children had come through our church’s youth  program, gone on short-term mission trips, and served in several  different ministries during their teenage years. Now they didn’t want  anything to do with it anymore. And, somehow, these mothers’ ideas for  our church to send college students “care packages” during their  freshman year to help them feel connected to the church didn’t strike me  as a solution with quite enough depth.

The daunting statistics about chucchgoing youth keep rolling in. Panic ensues. What are we doing wrong in our churches? In our youth ministries?

It’s hard to sort through the various reports and find the real  story. And there is no one easy solution for bringing all of those  “lost” kids back into the church, other than continuing to pray for them  and speaking the gospel into their lives. However, we can all look at  the 20-somethings in our churches who are engaged and involved in ministry. What is it that sets apart the kids who stay in  the church? Here are just a few observations I have made about such  kids, with a few applications for those of us serving in youth ministry.

1. They are converted.

The apostle Paul, interestingly enough, doesn’t use phrases like  “nominal Christian” or “pretty good kid.” The Bible doesn’t seem to mess  around with platitudes like: “Yeah, it’s a shame he did that, but he’s  got a good heart.” When we listen to the witness of Scripture,  particularly on the topic of conversion, we find that there is very  little wiggle room. Listen to these words: “Therefore, if anyone is in  Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new  has come” (2 Cor. 5:17).  We youth pastors need to get back to understanding salvation as what it  really is: a miracle that comes from the glorious power of God through  the working of the Holy Spirit.

We need to stop talking about “good kids.” We need to stop being  pleased with attendance at youth group and fun retreats. We need to  start getting on our knees and praying that the Holy Spirit will do  miraculous saving work in the hearts of our students as the Word of God  speaks to them. In short, we need to get back to a focus on conversion.  How many of us are preaching to “unconverted evangelicals”? Youth  pastors, we need to preach, teach, and talk—all the while praying  fervently for the miraculous work of regeneration to occur in the hearts  and souls of our students by the power of the Holy Spirit! When that  happens—when the “old goes” and the “new comes”—it will not be iffy. We will not be dealing with a group of “nominal Christians.” We will be  ready to teach, disciple, and equip a generation of future church  leaders—“new creations”!—who are hungry to know and speak God’s Word. It  is converted students who go on to love Jesus and serve the church.

2. They have been equipped, not entertained.

Recently we had “man day” with some of the guys in our youth group.  We began with an hour of basketball at the local park, moved to an  intense game of 16” (“Chicago Style”) softball, and finished the  afternoon by gorging ourselves on meaty pizzas and 2-liters of soda. I  am not against fun (or gross, depending on your opinion of the afternoon  I just described) things in youth ministry. But youth pastors  especially need to keep repeating the words of Ephesians 4:11-12 to themselves: “[Christ] gave . . . the teachers to equip the saints  for the work of the ministry, for building up the body of Christ.”  Christ gives us—teachers—to the church, not for entertainment,  encouragement, examples, or even friendship primarily. He gives us to  the church to “equip” the saints to do gospel ministry, in order that  the church of Christ may be built up.

If I have not equipped the students in my ministry to share the  gospel, disciple a younger believer, and lead a Bible study, then I have  not fulfilled my calling to them, no matter how good my sermons have  been. We pray for conversion; that is all we can do, for it is entirely a  gracious gift of God. But after conversion, it is our Christ-given duty  to help fan into flame a faith that serves, leads, teaches, and grows.  If our students leave high school without Bible-reading habits,  Bible-study skills, and strong examples of discipleship and prayer, we  have lost them. We have entertained, not equipped them . . . and it may  indeed be time to panic!

Forget your youth programs for a second. Are we sending out from our  ministries the kind of students who will show up to college in a  different state, join a church, and begin doing the work of gospel  ministry there without ever being asked? Are we equipping them to that  end, or are we merely giving them a good time while they’re with us? We  don’t need youth group junkies; we need to be growing churchmen and  churchwomen who are equipped to teach, lead, and serve. Put your youth  ministry strategies aside as you look at that 16-year-old young man and  ask: “How can I spend four years with this kid, helping him become the  best church deacon and sixth-grade Sunday school class teacher he can  be, ten years down the road?”

3. Their parents preached the gospel to them.

As a youth pastor, I can’t do all this. All this equipping that I’m  talking about is utterly beyond my limited capabilities. It is  impossible for me to bring conversion, of course, but it is also  impossible for me to have an equipping ministry that sends out vibrant  churchmen and churchwomen if my ministry is not being reinforced tenfold  in the students’ homes. The common thread that binds together almost  every ministry-minded 20-something that I know is abundantly clear: a  home where the gospel was not peripheral but absolutely central. The  20-somethings who are serving, leading, and driving the ministries at  our church were kids whose parents made them go to church. They are kids  whose parents punished them and held them accountable when they were  rebellious. They are kids whose parents read the Bible around the dinner  table every night. And they are kids whose parents were tough, but who  ultimately operated from a framework of grace that held up the cross of  Jesus as the basis for peace with God and forgiveness toward one  another.

This is not a formula! Kids from wonderful gospel-centered homes  leave the church; people from messed-up family backgrounds find eternal  life in Jesus and have beautiful marriages and families. But it’s also  not a crap-shoot. In general, children who are led in their faith during  their growing-up years by parents who love Jesus vibrantly, serve their  church actively, and saturate their home with the gospel completely,  grow up to love Jesus and the church. The words of Proverbs 22:6 do not constitute a formula that is true 100 percent of the time, but  they do provide us with a principle that comes from the gracious plan of  God, the God who delights to see his gracious Word passed from  generation to generation: “Train up a child in the way he should go;  even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Youth pastors, pray with all your might for true conversion; that is  God’s work. Equip the saints for the work of the ministry; that is your  work. Parents, preach the gospel and live the gospel for your children;  our work depends on you.

Jon Nielson is the senior high pastor at College Church in Wheaton, Illinois. He blogs at Something More Sure.

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